Betrayal Trauma SOS

Episode 12: Grace To Heal From A Loved One's Sex Addiction

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Grace is my favorite tool for healing from… anything but especially betrayal trauma. The key element in my recovery from betrayal trauma that stems from my husband’s sex addiction has certainly been grace and I’m happy to discuss that in this betrayal trauma podcast episode.

Women’s Stories of GRACE In Healing From Betrayal Trauma

I am honored to welcome 9 women who share their personal experiences with grace as they heal from betrayal trauma. Their experiences have strengthened me and I look forward to sharing their beautiful stories of Grace in this episode

Religions That Teach About Grace

Grace, is a fundamental concept of Christianity, however, the more I looked into the concept of grace, the more I realized that it is found in many religions and not just Christianity. For instance, did you know that the Hebrew word that is similar to grace is chen? I found that grace was also found in Hinduism, Islam, Buddhism and more.

Something in me seems to melt when I hear or think about grace. When reading the scriptures, and in particular, the New Testament, I highlight the word grace anytime I see it. My New Testament is littered with that beautiful word and I have wondered how it applies to me. Lately, I have contemplated how it applies to healing from betrayal trauma. As I’ve actively looked for the role of grace in my recovery from betrayal trauma, I have seen it everywhere. How stunning and wonderful to realize that grace was at the center of every tool and every healing principle.

Grace For the Brokenhearted

Grace certainly has the ability to cleanse from sin, but today, I am addressing the heartbroken. I know because I walk among you as one of your own. Today, in regards to grace I will primarily focus on the enabling power of grace as it has healing properties.

I love this definition of grace from Sheri Dew’s book Amazed by Grace as she says, quote “What is Grace? Grace is divine, enabling power.

Author and Pastor Max Lucado has a video about Grace and a book as well wherein he tells a story about a man named Li Fuyan. Mr. Fuyan had suffered from terrible headaches for 4 years. Nothing had gotten rid of his headaches. Nothing. Finally, the doctors took an x-ray and discovered that a rusty four inch knife blade was in his skull. Years earlier he had an altercation with a robber and had been attacked. Mr. Fuyan did not know that the knife blade from the robber had broken off under his jaw and into his skull.

Buried pain can be similar to the knife. When we bring our pain to our higher power or God, we invite the surgeon to remove the proverbial knife.

Surgery and recovery are not typically pleasant experiences. They take time, skill, and following directions from the surgeon. As walking wounded, we have proverbial knives stabbed deep into our souls. Removing them typically takes time, patience and a great deal of compassion.

In this episode, I also talk about ways that grace is healing my family from the consequences of sex addiction and betrayal trauma.