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Episode 7: I Am Sacred

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Episode 7: I Am Sacred

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I am sacred and so are you. Do you know how to discover your self worth for yourself? Sometimes that process can be elusive, but this episode walks you through various ways to experiment and to learn that you are sacred.

Host Jeni Brockbank walks you through various concepts and offers her own journey to learning her divine worth. Once you learn that you are sacred, you know that others are sacred as well.

While the Betrayal Trauma SOS podcast is typically geared towards those struggling with betrayal trauma, this self care podcast can be applied universally. All walks of life are welcome.

Learn how to cultivate your own self worth with exercises and concepts that include:

Not apologizing for your existence and learning that you have a right to be here. An example of apologizing for our existence might include saying something such as, “I am sorry that I am crying.” This episode includes a warm and welcoming alternative to such statements.
A body image exercise that helps us to love ourselves no matter what our body looks like. To gain self love.
Gaining self worth through the joy of creativity. It’s easy to lose ourselves in the process of trying to save others, so let’s explore how ingniting our creative spark can bring joy.
Meeting needs. So often, women in general and some men as well give and give and give so much that we forget that we, too, are worthy of time and effort.
Your body is a temple. When we can see ourselves as sacred it is easier to love ourselves in whatever state we are in and it’s also easier to take better care of our selves as well. 1 Corinthians 3:16 says in part, “the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are.”
Prayer- “My favorite way to learn my worth is on my knees with my Heavenly Father. I do feel His love and assurance when I ask Him how He feels about me. The more honest and vulnerable I am with my Heavenly Father about anything, but particularly regarding feelings of worth, the more tender He is towards me. I can feel it.”

Sources:

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https://3keyelements.com/kim-duncan/

Matthew 22: 37-39

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Jeffrey R. Holland “To Young Women”

Dieter F. Uchtdorf “Happiness Your Heritage”

Episode 2 of Betrayal Trauma SOS: Betrayal Trauma. What is it?

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Episode 6: How Church Leadership Can Help Those In Betrayal Trauma

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Episode 6: How Church Leadership Can Help Those In Betrayal Trauma

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Have you ever wondered how church leadership can help those in betrayal trauma? I’ve got some tips that will transform how clergy can help someone through the painful process after betrayal. Join me, host Jeni Brockbank as I give many sources along with my own experiences.

Ecclesiastical leaders are often first responders to people in trauma and have the opportunity to offer guidance so that people can find true and lasting healing.

All denominations are welcome and while I belong to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, I have chosen information that I believe applies to most religions. So, whether you are a bishop, a priest, a rabi, a relief society president, a church service missionary or just a curious observer, you are welcome here.

I have a strong belief that gaining education regarding betrayal trauma will increase the capacity to guide wounded patrons to the one true source of healing: God.

If you wonder how church leadership can help those in betrayal trauma, then this podcast episode is for you.

If you like research, then you are in luck because this episode is heavily sourced.

Sources:

Episode 2: Betrayal Trauma- What Is It?

Episode 5: You Can’t Fix Sex Addiction With Sex

Katy Willis A Betrayal Trauma Resource for Bishops (or other ecclesiastical leaders)

http://utahvalleyaddictionrecovery.com/for-religious-leaders/a-letter-to-my-church-leader/

Dr. Adam Moore A Letter To My Church Leader

Keeping the Temple Holy by Gordon B. Hinckley

The Body Keeps the Score by Besel van der Kolk

Unwanted by Jay Stringer

Dallin H. Oaks talk, “Pornography”

Helping Couples Heal Podcast “Understanding Betrayal with Dr. Omar Minwalla Part Two

Leading Saints Summit- Kirk Francom interview with Katy Willis transcript

LDS Family Services, “Family Services provides short-term professional counseling for individuals, couples, and families.”

Lifestar

Addo Recovery https://w

Hank R. Smith Quote about boundaries

Malachi 4:2

Jacob 2: 35

Excerpt from 13th article of faith

Episode 5: You Can’t Fix Sex Addiction With Sex

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Episode 5: You Can't Fix Sex Addiction With Sex

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You can’t fix sex addiction with sex. Trust me. I tried. Has the idea ever come to you that marriage might fix a sex addiction, or that having a baby will? I relate. Join me, Jeni Brockbank, as I guide you through my journey of coming to learn what addiction REALLY is. This gets interesting as we discuss the Rat Park study and so much more. I’ll take you through my process of coming to better understand sex addiction and that this understanding helps to find tools for healing from betrayal trauma.

We will end with a guided mediation at the end that incorporates divine worth, your eternal origin, and that you are enough. You are beyond enough.

Your Value Is Stable — You Are Enough. In fact, you are beyond enough.

A few links and/ or references from this episode include:

Meditation: You Are Enough- You Are Beyond Enough

Enter To Win a Betrayal Trauma SOS First Aid Kit On Facebook (Winner chosen May 19, 2020)

Everything You Think You Know About Addiction Is Wrong Johann Hari

Your Brain On Porn

Unwanted by Jay Stringer

You Matter To Him by Dieter F. Uchtdorf

Episode 4: Why Your Story Matters & How To Safely Share It

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Episode 4: Why Your Story Matters & How To Safely Share It

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Have you tried sharing your story of betrayal trauma with someone? If you’re lucky, it went well, but if your experiences are similar to mine, then let’s talk. Not everyone understands betrayal trauma… including many therapists, so how do you choose who to share your story with?

The cool thing is, that sharing your story with the righ people can aid in healing. Trauma makes our memories fragmented, and figuring out the details puts things back in place.

Join me, Jeni Brockbank as I talk about some of my experiences regarding sharing details related to my husband’s sex addiction with others. I let you know how I have been unintentionally hurt, how to protect against further damage, and offer guidelines for finding safe ways to share.

Pornography addiction is real and there are so many people wounded in it’s wake. Let’s heal together.

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Episode 3: First Aid Kit + a Body Scan

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Episode 3: First Aid Kit + a Body Scan

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Are you curious if a Betrayal Trauma First Aid Kit might benefit you? First Aid Kits can help in times of emotional distress. Join host Jeni Brockbank as she shares her experiences with first aid kits. Jeni shares what is in her first aid kit and also gives tips to creating your own betrayal trauma first aid kit.

Special thanks to some beautiful and anonymous women who helped create this episode. Their input is invaluable and will most definitely help others in trauma.

To most effectively use a first aid kit, it’s best to be in tune with your body. Jeni’s soothing voice walks you through a body scan meditation, guiding listeners to better meet their own needs. This body scan meditation starts at your toes and moves to your head.

Enter to win your first aid kit here. The Betrayal Trauma First Aid Kit that will be gifted includes:

-gold polka dotted tote
-super soft blanket
-Symphony Bar
-lovely smelling candle
-lovely rose quartz rock

To enter, one must reside in The United States or Canada due to shipping costs.

If you just want the body scan meditation, visit it here on the Betrayal Trauma SOS Youtube page.

Betrayal Trauma SOS: Let’s heal together.

March 3, 2020March 3, 2020

Your Heart Can Beat Again After Sexual Betrayal

Dear Friend,

I assume that you found this because of a great heart break. Because the one who promised faithfulness, maybe even for forever, has somehow breached that trust. Oh how I ache that you know such pain.

You see, I know it as well. While our stories likely have differences, they likely have similarities as well. We might not share the exact same details, but we’re now part of a club that we never, ever, in a million trillion years wanted to participate in. Life is different and reality was shattered.

So, here’s the thing, this hurts. Seriously hurts. Can someone die of a broken heart? I am going to be honest with you, I have wished for death at times.

Hope

And then… then I found this thing called “recovery.” I was shocked to learn that I had options and choices and the ability to change my situation. I was amazed to learn that experts have recently been studying this thing called “betrayal trauma.” I was relieved beyond anything I can describe to find that there was help available for me.

For me, I’m not completely healed yet. I still suffer from paralyzing trauma at times that really takes it out of me. Most people would never guess that I am often times really mess, but it’s true. So, I’m on a journey. A journey for wholeness that leads to deep inner peace. I’ve had blips of it; I’ve seen the beginnings.

Tools

So far my journey has included God, therapy, yoga, art, books, mindfulness, meditation, 12 steps, friendships, support groups and more. I have found so much joy and healing. I have found myself.

About that betrayal trauma though, it’s a booger. Seriously. Crippling at times. Even though things are improving in my marriage and family, trauma creeps in, hijacks my system, and leaves various forms of evidence of the devastation. I really hate it.

LET’S HEAL TOGETHER

You know that club we’re both in and don’t really want anyone to know about? Yeah. I haven’t wanted anyone to know either, but this betrayal trauma is kind of sort of REALLY crippling. What if we changed our shape a bit? What if we linked arms, found resources and dipped our toes in the water of what it’s like to heal. To really heal?

I did something scary. Terrifying actually. I started a podcast called Betrayal Trauma SOS. I incorporate meditation in my podcasts, but if you just want the meditation portion, you can visit that here. I hope you’ll join me and we can heal together.

Will you join me on this journey? Isolation is beastly.

XOXO

Jeni

Ps. I found this song and kind of sort of REALLY love it. Gave me some beautiful hope. If you listen to it, what do you think?

Episode 1: Your Heart Can Beat Again After Betrayal

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Episode 1: Your Heart Can Beat Again After Betrayal

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Have you discovered an affair, or pornography use from a trusted loved one? Perhaps you experienced virtual or literal infidelity from a spouse or partner? Do you feel extreme emotions, like you are crazy, or even numb? You are normal and there is help.

Join host Jeni Brockbank on her journey of betrayal trauma and healing. Beat isolation while learning that your emotions are normal and there are so many tools to aid in healing. In this episode, Jeni shares a snapshot of her experiences regarding the sexual betrayal of her husband and subsequent healing. Jeni’s vulnerability allows listeners to know that they aren’t alone, they aren’t crazy, and there are many tools to help.

Whether there was an affair or porn was discovered, the effects of infidelity can be crushing and can cause PTSD type symptoms that last long after the disclosure. Knowing this allows the partner to find much needed help and community. Resources to help the betrayed spouse are improving. and the Betrayal Trauma SOS podcast explores many different resources so that other can find their own recovery fit.

This episode also includes a meditation at the end, allowing others to feel validated in their heartache while encouraging healing. Healing from betrayal trauma is possible and, your heart can beat again after betrayal.